Emotional Loneliness
In this day and age of isolation experienced during the pandemic, busy-ness in the working world, being spread out or disconnected from friends and family, and excessive media consumption, loneliness has become a deeply felt and resounding issue. Even when we are surrounded by community and support networks, we may not always seek them or reach out in fear of rejection, or simply because we don’t want to interrupt other’s lives. But the truth is, that many people are missing this connection and level of support, and they may also be feeling the same way.
Sometimes our connections with others merely skim the surface. We can joke and laugh, and have a good time while merely speaking about superficial issues. But who can we feel safe with to share our deeper wants and desires? Sometimes this lack of intimate social connections creates more of a disconnect. We may be surrounded by family and friends and still feel emotionally lonely.
Emotional loneliness can result from a variety of factors. Perhaps our emotional needs weren't fully met in childhood, or there may have been experiences of abuse and neglect. Sometimes individuals may engage in toxic behaviors or relationship patterns in attempt to restore these bonds or meet emotional deficiencies. Unfortunately, these situations often perpetuate the loneliness and disconnection further, and may repeat themselves, until we can fully interrupt these cycles with a desire to make a change.
If you are experiencing a sense of emotional loneliness or isolation from others, make an effort to reach out. Get involved in your community and meet with others individually. Chances are, the more people you meet, the more opportunities you will have to discover a kindred spirit who is also searching for that deeper more meaningful connection. It just takes some courage and confidence to put yourself out there, or make that initial effort. There is always a possibility of rejection or we may get the sense that we simply don’t click with the other person. But, we are no worse off for having tried. And remember, we are not alone in our loneliness.
